It’s Okay to take a loss
After indulging in a much-needed hiatus from life's relentless pandemonium, I've finally resurfaced... well, virtually back to my website, at least. Amidst the whirlwind of my current existence, a fresh lesson has taken center stage, prompting me to divulge the unspoken truth. It's a topic most shy away from, yet it's an inevitable facet of human experience: taking an (L)oss. Yes, it occurs to each and every one of us, whether we're willing to acknowledge it or not. Sometimes, we stumble. It's a natural part of the journey, a detour that often leads to profound self-discovery. Personally, I've gleaned more insight from my setbacks than I ever have from triumphs. Sure, winning may inflate our egos and provide momentary gratification, but what genuine lessons are learned? It's more about fleeting satisfaction than enduring growth. In contrast, facing defeat permeates every fiber of our being, leaving our egos bruised and battered. YET, that's perfectly acceptable. Embracing defeat grants us a valuable blueprint for our future selves.
Well, buckle up and brace yourself for the inevitable sting of defeat, because life's NOT hitting the pause button for your pity party. It took me a while to swallow that bitter pill, but once it went down, it snapped me back to reality. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it's just not gonna be you. Even if you've worked on yourself, polished your rough edges, and learned from past blunders, it might still not cut it. And guess what? That's perfectly fine. Because sometimes, it's not about you. It's about someone else being a better fit, a more tantalizing option, captivating them in a way that perfectly complements their desires and lifestyle. And you know what? That's totally fine. You genuinely wish them the best, even if it means stepping aside and fully supporting their choices. They're the experts on what suits them best, whether it's in their career, interests, relationships—whatever it may be. On the flip side, you're the authority on what's best for you. Sure, this time things didn't pan out as planned, and it sucks, but just wait, opportunity's about to come knocking or throwing a tiny white ball at your head.
There's a whole world out there brimming with possibilities waiting for you to seize them or knock them out the park; and that’s exactly what happened.
Amidst the aftermath of that loss, a mysterious scheme unraveled, hinting at a forthcoming revelation of greater significance... Yet, as I stand face to face with this colossal prospect, it greets me with a grin and piercing hazel eyes, posing as the most daunting challenge I've encountered yet: integrating seamlessly into my professional social circles. He looms like a titan, shrouded in an aura of captivating allure, effortlessly captivating the attention of all who encounter him, including myself. He’s charming, an athlete, with unexpected loyalty, profound mannerism… he's the type of individual who opens doors with a simple smile, effortlessly navigating through life's challenges and opportunities with finesse. He has every “check box” checked, even with a reputation of a womanizer, he’s honest and open with you. But here's the thing: I've got a habit of dodging or blocking opportunities that could lead to thrilling passion and unforgettable moments. I’ve learned from past missteps and failures that I can't keep running away or blocking what could potentially be the best thing for me, even if it feels daunting. After all, I spent all of my time regretting running and looking for opportunities to ultimately “make-up” for what damage I caused from running… I should have answered the phone, but I was a hot mess, in total shambles. I should have gotten on that plane for a surprise visit, but I didn’t and it will haunt me indefinitely, but that is okay. I've paid the price of remorse for far too long, but I emerge wiser, steadfast in my resolve to never traverse that path again.
So take the loss, learn the lesson, make an oath to never go back to your old ways, no matter the circumstance.
I can’t make the same mistake twice. I can’t take another loss and I won’t this time.
-XOXO